If you drop your daycare, drop your TV, drop "entertainment" items you'll
find that you will then be able to stay at home with the kids. Most
parent's salary goes directly to daycare (3/4 of it at least). Arrange
for
1/2 days, or get a job that is more flexible.
1) It is more expensive. This is the hardest time to 'grow up' and make
yourself since just after WWII economically.
2) We buy more. Look around your house. When you were a kid, did you
have
4 kinds of cereals to choose from? Did you have a 24/7 cartoon channel?
Did you have DVD players in the back o fyour van seats.
Many things we think we need we don't. Look at your children. Listen to
them. See what they play with. Mine (I have 3) rarely even touch a toy -
they'd rather draw, sing, dance, create. I spend what money I might have
wasted on small toys throughout the year on a halloween costume or two,
and
they use that to pretend, using their imgination, creating their worlds to
play in.
We don't have it easy, and I have to cut out more than I would like to,
but
it's doable. Barely, but doable. With one parent and three kids, I would
be hard pressed were it not for family, as I have no extra money for
babysitting. Luckily, when I really need a break, I can get somebody to
come over or let the kids come over for a few hours.
Aside from that, it's not suppossed to be easy, just b/c everybody can do
it
doesn't mean everybody can do it well. As with anything of value, it
requires time, patience and dedications.
Crash
"Thom" <thomjohn21@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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>I am a parent of 2 very young school aged girls. There are times I
wonder
>if I am being the best parent for them. My spouse and I both work, just
>like other parents. We went through the years (and expense) of daycare.
We
>have gone through the abuse at daycare.
>
> We have done everything that other parents in the U.S. are doing now.
> But, I wonder if we have lost, or never knew the art of parenting. We
can
> both remember our mothers being home to greet us from school; being
> chaperones on field trips; picking us up from school when we were sick.
>
> Now, we cannot do these things. Our children's school is constantly
asking
> for help from the parents; but it is very hard to take off from work
> whenever the school needs help. Thus the school needs to hire more
people
> to help in the schools. In turn, our taxes go up because the schools had
> to hire the help.
>
> We know that we don't like our taxes to go up. We know the schools need
> help. But is this helping our children? More and More I keep wondering
if
> we as parents are neglecting our children because of the economic
> pressure?
>
> Personally, I found myself working 8 hours a day; then brought work home
> and continue for another 3 to 4 hours. When did my children get to play
> with me?
>
> Now I teach high school and still have the same issue. No matter what I
do
> to change the situation, I always find myself back into it.
>
> What can we do to find the art of parenting?
>
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